COMMAND!

MISTRESS ZOE’S FLAGSHIP BDSM WORKSHOP SERIES

Take a journey into confident, conscious dominance and step into your authority with skill, safety and intention

Calling all kink citizens, FemDoms, lifestyle D/s mistresses, aspiring dominatrixes, ProDommes and those interested in living a female-led relationship. This is the course you have been waiting for.

This is your chance to access live and in-person training in the fundamental skills of the Dominatrix.

Taught by one of Melbourne’s most highly experienced and respected practitioners, Mistress Zoe Demure in her private dungeon in Southbank.

If you’ve ever wondered:

  • How can I structure a scene properly?

  • How do I make sure my partner feels safe?

  • How do I play without causing harm?

This workshop series is for you.
Lets take your play and your domination to the next level!

What you will learn

Command is a 6 workshop series structured to give you the knowledge and tools to enable you to play as a Top/Dom in the BDSM space with Risk Aware Consensual KINK (RACK) and informed skill.

This educational series will give you the foundations you need to feel confident in your play, guiding you towards a deeper understanding and a practical skill set in BDSM. This is a pivotal step in your journey towards learning what to do with your submissive.

Why aspiring Mistresses and Dominatrixes will love Command

  • In-person workshops, not passive videos

  • Learn by watching, practicing, and refining your skills

  • Focused on real-world application, not theory alone

  • Small-group sessions for meaningful feedback

  • Designed for women and femmes

  • Inclusive, judgment-free, consent-centered

  • Confidential, supportive learning environment

  • Strong emphasis on emotional intelligence, safety, and professionalism

Command supports you in developing authentic dominance that aligns with who you are, not a persona you’re forced to perform.

“You don’t need to become someone else to be dominant.
You need permission, knowledge, and practice”

~ Mistress Zoe Demure

The 6 Command Workshops

  • This is a skills-based workshop focused on safety, consent, professionalism, and aftercare.

    Topics covered:

    • Negotiation and consent done right

    • Safety and what to do in a medical emergency

    • Managing challenging situations, stay in control when working with triggered partners, drug or alcohol affected and more

    • Partners with disabilities (physical sensory or cognitive) how to play with dignity, accessibility and consent

    • Psychological after-effects, understand sub drop and Dom drop

    • Legal awareness and practicalities, documentation and self-protection

    • Aftercare that actually works

    If you want to negotiate better, respond smarter, and protect both yourself and others, this workshop is for you.

    Your sub/bottom is not required for this workshop

  • This practical, no-nonsense workshop is designed to take the mystery out of equipment and give you real-world knowledge you can trust.

    Topics covered:

    • Up close equipment exploration, what each tool is and its correct use, common purchase mistakes and more

    • What works and what doesn’t, what tools are reliable and versatile, which ones underperform, how different bodies/skills/scenarios affect performance

    • Where to source good quality, body safe equipment, what to look for and how to avoid cheap or unsafe gear

    • How to clean and take care of your equipment

    Whether you’re just starting out or refining your kit, this workshop will help you choose smarter, use better, and feel more confident with your tools.

    Touch it. Learn it. Use it well!

    Your sub/bottom is not required for this workshop

  • This beginner-friendly, hands-on workshop is designed to teach you safe, functional, and confidence-building rope skills from the ground up.

    Topics covered:

    • Safety fundamentals

    • Essential rope techniques, learn the different types of Ties and Harnesses every Top must know

    • Lots of hands on practice

    You’ll leave with the ability to tie confidently, understand why each tie works, and know how to keep your partner safe while doing it.

    Bring your sub to practice with or let us know if you need one provided

  • This workshop is a structured, educational introduction to corporal punishment techniques, focusing on skill, safety, and intentional impact rather than guesswork or excess force. Designed for beginners and those refining their fundamentals, this is a practical, guided learning environment.

    We’ll cover the mechanics, body positioning, aim, and control. You’ll be introduced to: Hand Spanking‍, ‍Paddling, Flogging, and the art and techniques of the Crop, Belt, Strap, Whip and Cane.

    • Safety and best practice

    • Skill, control, precision and confidence

    • Reading physical and emotional responses

    • Building scenes with intention and care

    By the end of this workshop you will understand whats possible during Impact Play, whats required to use the tools responsibly, skillfully, and safely.

    Bring your sub to practice with or let us know if you need one provided

  • Anal play is one of the most misunderstood, and most rewarding, areas of erotic exploration. When done poorly, it can be uncomfortable or intimidating. When done well, it can be profoundly pleasurable, intimate, and empowering.

    Mistress Zoe invites you into a 3-hour, practice-based workshop designed to demystify anal play and teach you how to explore it safely, confidently, and consensually — whether you’re brand new, curious-but-nervous, or looking to deepen existing skills.

    Topics covered:

    • Foundations of Anal Play including, anatomy & physiology, preparation and pacing

    • Prostate massage and fingering techniques

    • Strap on play

    • Safety considerations for fisting

    • Consent, Communication and Negotiation

    • Preparation and safety, prevention of cross contamination and cleaning considerations

    • Aftercare and emotional support

    This workshop is for anyone looking to explore safely and confidently, those wanting to refine technique and curious newbies looking to learn.

    Bring your sub to practice with or let us know if you need one provided

  • Humiliation and Degradation (H&D) play can be one of the most intoxicating, erotic, and psychologically intense kink experiences, when done with care. It can also be deeply harmful when misunderstood, poorly negotiated, or inadequately repaired.

    This immersive, 3 hour discussion-based workshop explores the full spectrum of humiliation and degradation: from playful teasing to edge-play taboo, from erotic shame to full objectification, always grounded in consent, ethics, and aftercare.

    Topics covered:

    • Learn the types of Humiliation & Degradation Play

    • Learn the tools to negotiate comprehensively

    • Zoe will share her real life stories of H&D play and the lessons she has learnt along the way

    • Aftercare and emotional repair

    Come learn how humiliation and degradation can be consensual, erotic, ethical, and deeply connective when practiced with skill.

    Your sub/bottom is not required for this workshop

Pricing

Six Group Workshops

$250 per workshop

Buy all 6, get 1 free $1250

Check the individual workshop listings for when you are encouraged to bring a sub/bottom.

“Absolutely wonderful experience, not only was it profoundly informative but it also fostered such a beautiful sense of community. All of the workshops were so well thought out and I think each topic covered was perfect.”

~ Command Student

Your Teacher

Mistress Zoe Demure

Mistress Zoe Demure (she/her) is an experienced ProDomme, BDSM educator and founder of Studio of Secrets with over 12 years of hands-on experience. A natural and enthusiastic facilitator, Zoe brings warmth, humour and infectious energy to her teaching, alongside a deep understanding of BDSM and power dynamics.

Her workshops span practical BDSM skills through to the deeper foundations of negotiation, communication, power dynamics and play planning. Zoe’s teaching is engaging, accessible and firmly shame-free. Expect plenty of curiosity, laughter and hands-on learning alongside the serious business of building confidence and real-world skills.

Zoe holds an Honours Degree in Sociology and a Graduate Diploma in Counselling, and is currently undertaking a Master’s degree in Counselling and Psychotherapy. Her academic training informs her understanding of the social, psychological and interpersonal dimensions of kink. At heart, Zoe believes BDSM education should be accessible, practical, empowering and fun, helping people become more confident, thoughtful and skilled practitioners.

Applications Are Now Open

Complete the form with a few details about yourself to express your interest.